Moving Past the Stigma of Divorce
Divorce can be a long, challenging process, but, in many cases, the worst part can be right at the beginning when one spouse has yet to share his or her thoughts or plans for the divorce and is holding it all in, worried about what friends, family, coworkers, and society-at-large might think. Will some people treat you differently because of a divorce at some point in your life? Most likely, but the stigma of divorce is probably far less than what you think. Furthermore, the people who want to make you feel bad or inferior because of your divorce are probably not the people you need in your life as you enter into the divorce process. Indeed, moving past the stigma of divorce can be critical to taking the steps necessary to ensure you are able to move forward from the divorce towards a more stable and secure tomorrow.
Surround Yourself With Supportive, Constructive People
You will get a variety of responses from people you tell about your impending divorce, ranging from questions about why you couldn’t make it work to the sudden airing of long-held resentments against your spouse which are meant to egg you on but which can just make you feeling more defeated and depressed than ever.
Depending on the circumstances of your marriage, full emotional recovery can take years. While you should be taking steps now to address emotional issues, however, such as seeing a therapist, you do have the pressing matter of making sure you take the proper legal actions to protect your property and obtain fair outcomes with regard to spousal support, child support, child custody, and division of property. Surround yourself with people who can actually support you as you take the steps to manage those issues, and not people who – well-intentioned or not – are going to make you feel guilty about the marriage or rile you up against your spouse.
Divorce, while one of the most difficult experiences a person can endure, is also for many people the most important step they ever take to building the life they want. In short, find people who can help you look towards that brighter tomorrow and not wallow in the unchangeable past.
Speak With An Experienced, Compassionate Family Law Attorney
It should go without saying that there should be no stigma in contacting a family law attorney to guide you through the divorce. Although trying to keep the divorce proceedings civil is a noble and worthwhile goal, trying to accomplish that by not hiring an attorney often achieves the opposite result, as confusion, misunderstandings, and delays pile up.
Perhaps you have had a bad experience with an attorney in the past, but there are plenty of compassionate family law attorneys out there who understand exactly what you are going through and sincerely want to help you reach your best outcome. You should feel free to speak with several attorneys before settling on the one you are most comfortable with and who you trust to guide you through your divorce proceedings.
Get Answers to Your California Divorce Questions
To schedule a consultation regarding any questions about divorce in California, contact one of the family law attorneys at Kearney | Baker today at 626-768-2945.